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7 MAJOR Dating Mistakes Even Smart Women Make | Dating Advice For Women

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Do you make any of these dating mistakes when you're going out and meeting men? Start this free training to avoid these mistakes: https://secret.sexyconfidence.com/attract/ ---------------------------- Follow Me On Social! ---------------------------- FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/sexyconfidence1/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/officialsexyconfidence/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/adamlodolce Bob Ross, the beloved painter, liked to say, "There's no such thing as mistakes, just happy little accidents." Generally, I think this is great life advice (from a true legend). But sometimes avoiding mistakes is the difference between happiness and heartbreak! Today I want to help you avoid those mistakes that lead to heartbreak. They're completely avoidable, but so many women make them because they don't know better. This is especially true for smart, ambitious women who have succeeded in every area of their life, but still struggle with dating. Is this you? Today I want to reveal 7 major dating mistakes even smart women make, and how you can avoid them. [Thumbnail] Here's the truth: These mistakes aren't all obvious. Some are actually pretty damn hard to avoid unless you're consciously aware of them. Becoming aware of and avoiding these 7 major dating mistakes is what today's video is all about. Your coach, Adam P.S. If you're looking to meet the man of your dreams, you've got to check out Attract The One Academy. This is my brand new program that gives you a proven blueprint for meeting a man worthy of spending your life with. Click here to learn how to attract the man of your dreams. 7 Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make - Summary Texting a guy how you feel It's almost never a good idea. Rather than always texting what you feel, be courageous and bring your feelings to real-life interactions… … because that's where real intimacy actually exists. Trying to make a bad guy into a good guy Ambitious women bring their ambition to their relationships. When they meet a guy who is exciting and interesting, but isn't the type of man that will make her happy… … rather than saying, "You know what? I'm done with this,"… …. she goes into repair mode, doing everything she can to turn him into the right type of guy for her. This won't work. If you notice that a guy is not the right guy for you, move on and find the right one. Looking for the perfect partner A lot of smart, ambitious people want to take their perfectionism to relationships… … but the more you get to know someone, the more you discover imperfections about them. It's actually the imperfection you discover that makes you fall even deeper in love with that person. Getting to know him sexually before knowing if he can keep up with you intellectually Quite simply, do the opposite :) Expecting him to be your boyfriend before he is actually your boyfriend It's easy to assume that you are suddenly in a relationship with someone when things are going well… … but unless it is explicitly clear that you are in a relationship, you have to assume he's probably seeing other people as well.    Assuming he's a good person just because he's smart and charming Sadly, smart people can be the most dangerous people in relationships. Seeing what you want to see rather than the reality of who they really are It's so important to keep logic in the equation rather than always leading with your emotion. Have you made any of these mistakes? What did you learn? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
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Elizabeth Da Silva (2 months ago)
hello Adam, i love yout videos. Why did you say smatest people are the most dangerous in relationships? Regards from Venezuela♥
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FreedMan76 (3 months ago)
Wondering where all the good men went? Basically women just aren't worth dating, so the good men decided to love themselves and go their own way. Good men won't put up with bitches.
Chuck (3 months ago)
1 - women chase the top 15% of men till their 30s. 2 - Women are horrible judges of mens character and get pumped and dumped to their 30s, repetitively. 3- Women ride the cock carousel to their 30s . 4- They build up debt to their 30s, waiting for prince charming, or a government to bail them out. 5- They all move to the top 10 major citys meeting bad boy, after bad boy, after bad boy racking up a body count higher then a professional hitman, strokes to beat a old diesel engine in miles under the table, and having the fun zone be relabeled to the biohazzard zone STDs! 1 out of 6 women have a STD. 6- They bring the qualifications to meet men down to earth in her mid 30s to find a man as a retirement plan. 7- They focus on being a successful career woman, instead of finding 1 good guy!
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Giesje Williams (5 months ago)
Finally someone who gets straight to the point and is not making a video all about him.
alex vasquez (5 months ago)
Guys do not get Married dont get them Pregnant and do not take them to live in ur House.Just Pump and Dump.MGTOW FOREVER.
LOADING... (9 months ago)
Hello, sexy confidence. I’m writing to u because I feel like dating is getting harder and harder. May be ur videos should be more about men being a gentleman.
Princess in Red Tie (9 months ago)
Haha ducking wrong I’m only six foot one and 180 pound
Adult Dating (10 months ago)
Solid contribution.
Hoseyn Gholamy (11 months ago)
Flirty and smart looking men are a lot more dangerous than all kinds of men! Good looking men who don't flirt a lot and don't make much eye contact are the best
chempanda (1 year ago)
my mistake or problem is i have this type, and others outside of this type to me are kind of flat.
Maria Vargas (1 year ago)
I’m still waiting for the man I like so much to summon up his courage and say something to me.... he is that worth it in waiting for.
Maria Vargas (1 year ago)
My error is that I don’t know how to keep a man 😞
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Rebekah Jiracek (1 year ago)
My boyfriend of 6 years left me last month :( I don't even know how to get back into dating......ugh
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sanjana das (1 year ago)
I have a problem He is not my Boyfriend he is my friend and like a brother too but the thing is i made a mistake i didn't trust him and he felt bad and we forget about that thing but after that he don't talk to me as he was doing before he don't really sharing his felling and experience he ends the call when I'm saying something and says someone is calling him and stuff I fell like he is not interested to talk to me like before And I was felling hurt at first but niw its been 1 and half months he is doing this so i m kind of getting moved from our friendship....... but i want to get my brotherly friend back Will you plz help me.....
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you have no idea how useful this slap-in-the-face videos are... d'you wanna know my mistake? I NEVER LEARN.
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Pamela bb (1 year ago)
it was about time someone say this
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
imsatindoll (1 year ago)
Omg so good Adam
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
Playboi Hitch Jr (1 year ago)
I have dating advice for men on my page!
Harmanjyot kaur (1 year ago)
I loved this vedio ! ✌🏻🔥
Sara Abdi Fara (1 year ago)
I have giving up I cant fix him I cant fix me Love Hurts, i have No feelings left All my life it was all about him And im leaveing for the monuments I dont see me with guy or women
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Nick Chilkov (1 year ago)
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OH MI-RAN (1 year ago)
Wow ... I did everything he mentions!!
SamMushman (1 year ago)
Breaking down the Do's and Dont's of Texting in a relationship compared to a recent hookup https://soundcloud.com/user-801132633/for-the-love-of-texting-inaugural-episode
gina usher (1 year ago)
Is it wrong to ask the guy if he wants to kiss you on the first date when you don’t even know each other and met for the first time?
Cindy George (1 year ago)
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Amanda Land (1 year ago)
How do you have 277K subscribers and 881 likes
Irmgard Roman (1 year ago)
I made mistake number 7!! ..funny enough, when we met in person he agreed that the feeling is mutual and now we are dating....
Michele Jenco (1 year ago)
Oh how to choose just one.... 6) because I see the good in a troubled person . I just want add to their life and watch them shine! Can a girl be a white Knight? 2) intelligence is so drawing, but what I have found is manipulation has been in the undercurrent. 1) I have Rose Colored glasses syndrome. Seeing true colors is being worked on. Thank you Adam, I have been looking up your videos for empowerment and reminding myself of relationship goals. I greatly appreciate your candor wisdom and style.
Antimaus 2000 (1 year ago)
We have only small talk on whatsapp but interresting conversation when he is with me. Mostly i text him first (he do also sometimes but only in the morning . After the goodmorning smaltalk we talk this day only again if i text something . He is so shy and verry bissy and has not many time . Is he realy into me ?
BooDotBoo (1 year ago)
I’ve done 5 (the hardest one for me) and 2 too often. When I stopped, I found someone I think will actually last.
Qu Mu (1 year ago)
Start at 1:16
Sarah Oubadi (1 year ago)
Expressing my emotions through texting 'cause when I really met him for real he absolutely wasn't the one
Mollie Martin (1 year ago)
One of your best, thank you for this helpful info
DarthYuYevon (1 year ago)
Sexy Confidence - Hahaha, do heterosexuals even date anymore? Lesbians and Gay men have it way easier when it comes to dating, specifically when you live in bog cities. Men and women don't trust each other anymore and so, not sure why you're trying to help women date men. There aren't many quality men to even date for all women.
Vinayak Hotkar (7 months ago)
there aren't really a lot of the real women as well. we guys are really careful and do check for signs of being a gold digger.
william foshee (1 year ago)
DarthYuYevon you don't have to say that , theirs a lot of that which you said but real men still so exist
Throwback Tribe (1 year ago)
Agreed!!!! We talk about these all the time with our clients! Great info!
Ira G (1 year ago)
Hey guys! One question If a guy shows you that he likes you whenever you see him, but he hasn’t texted you even thought you exchanged numbers a couple of weeks ago. What is going on?
Kelly Owen (1 year ago)
Brilliantly put together and summarised Adam. I'm forwarding this video to my clinical therapy patients. Dr. K Owen. Clinical Psychologist
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
Thanks, Dr. Owen!
Shriyanshi Singh (1 year ago)
I can relate it with myself....!!!
Elyn Harb (1 year ago)
Heyy Adam, first thank you for all your helpful videos !! I have an important question to ask you. One guy that i knew since 5 years said to me one month ago that he loved me. And when I was next to the region where he lives he was coming to see me but he told me that his friends didn't let him to drive late at night because they was drinking. And this week he didn't texted me for like 2 days in a row and when he felt that i was annoyed by him he sended me a voice message apologizing. Now the thing is I want him to make effort to see me and if he doesn't it isn't true love.. what i'm supposed to do?
Stephanie Rodriguez (1 year ago)
I think have suffered from all these mistakes in my life time
John Johnson (1 year ago)
adam, man youve changed. what is with this vulgar language man? seriously how am i meant to get sexy confidenc when you abuse me through the screen. nah just kidding all love from my end, you really helped me get a wife, love me and the kids x
Kecia Scarbrough (1 year ago)
I'm not dangerous I have very high expectations. I finished college why should someone just as smart as me be dangerous.👎
JEN TANG (1 year ago)
'I want you to look at life as a massive experimentation' !!! Word. There are so much wisdom in your funny videos!
tsibris (1 year ago)
thank you, adam, for making your videos short and TO THE POINT! p.s. haven't made any of these mistakes, yet men today are just... usually not worth getting out of the house for...
MultiSmiley94 (1 year ago)
#4 for me :(
Ms. B Karaoke B (1 year ago)
Thank you Adam for the notes below. Very helpful.
Ramona A. (1 year ago)
Hey Adam... I love your advice but there is one point I can´t admit as right. So I met a guy about one month ago and all was going great, we had magnificent dates until I noticed he chats with other women in between. I am so confused whether to move on to the next guy or to wait because it is something acceptable in the beginning for him to check the market, as we are not in a relationship yet. Thank you!
Deni (1 year ago)
Sounds like a masters in maths you need to simply get a decent guy.
Claire (1 year ago)
Great video! My biggest mistake was number 3... I am always trying to categorise everything so it is the easiest way is to say "So since now we are in relationship." ...crazy but true :D Thanks for your amazing videos!!!!
Angella Smitho (1 year ago)
Number 1 is bang on
Cyn Cyn (1 year ago)
Can you please make a video on 3rd party situation. I found myself falling in love over the summer with someone at work with 3 baby mommas and who admitted to cheating on his current and only staying with her due to their child together. He kept wanting and insisting I wait for her to move out but my conscious would not allow it. I don’t know if he was a narcissist or truly in love with me. But this love triangle was causing me to lose sleep and feel stressed.
Mama Makes Music (1 year ago)
3:25 yeah, my ex husband..... Damn narcissist
maria audrey (1 year ago)
william foshee (1 year ago)
maria audrey yeah , true don't know we do have real men giving out good thoughts like this !
Andrew Ashton - WOLF (1 year ago)
I find "perfect" to be seen out of context as perfect to me is a person who accepts their flaws and such and using them to their advantage to be more confident and sexier even more appealing. I find flaws and such to be "perfect" as it's part of who they are and flaws are what drives us to be better people. Whether anyone agrees or not is upto to them but I find everything about a person to be "perfect" just depends on how you perceive perfection.
Wendy Avalos (1 year ago)
Great advice, love this video will keep in mind all that you said on this video 👍😬😍
Laura Gadille (1 year ago)
Yup I learned a lot from all these when I dated my first ex. He was very abusive, sexual, physically and mentally. I've learned that I'm better off alone. If the right guy comes along great if not I'm ok with that too.
william foshee (1 year ago)
Laura Gadille yeah , sometimes is cool spending some time been alone makes you feel f
Maryoom (1 year ago)
Thank you for your sophisticated words :)
Kyesha Carter (1 year ago)
Hi can someone help? ❤ so i met my crush a year ago and he was so into me he kissed me and everything we got along so well I fell like I was apart of him. Unfortunately we live in the same town but its hard to see each other because we are teenagers and we can't drive etc. So, a couple days ago after months of not seeing him or doing anything I finally see him again. He started kissing me and touching me again so clearly he wasn't over me. After that i started to text my crush. I saw that his bio said "Taken" and I was confused as to why, I also noticed that he barely texts me back, I always have to be the one to sometimes start the convo, so I told him how I felt and he was like "I liked you and you know that i liked you, but I don't want long distance relationships rn and I've been so hurt and I'm going through serious things right now, you're an amazing sweet girl though" like wtf???
Vinayak Hotkar (7 months ago)
move on. that's it.
Dare S. (1 year ago)
This was great, thanks, I have been researching "advice from men to women" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Honulian Fascination Inveiglement - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my work buddy got amazing success with it.
Kyesha Carter (1 year ago)
watsup mila thank you
watsup mila (1 year ago)
Kyesha Carter hey kesha every girl goes thru this phase and it sucks! Hope u moved on from him And pursuing ur life confidently so the one for u will fall head over heels for you
Kyesha Carter (1 year ago)
The Little MinkkiGirl oh wow, some guys these days. Good thing I'm talking to a guy now that actually cares. Thank you so much! ❤
Michele Sanderson (1 year ago)
william foshee (1 year ago)
Michele Sanderson you're not ok with his good thoughts?
S Raen (1 year ago)
Adam your videos helped me deal with my shattered heart. Sadly I commited all these mistakes 🤦🏼‍♀️ but thanks to you, I became a sexy confident women.
Jasmiena Jansen (1 year ago)
So i met this guy on a chat site.. And he falls in love instantly.. his wife died 7 years ago.. .. So yes men are wired diffrently.. but i cant fathom the instant love.... And he expects me to feel same way too development.. I told him baby steps.. Can't shake the fact that I'll have to measure up to a dead woman.. cos a few facts has been mentioned already.. what do I do? Yes I like him.. We have a date in two weeks time.. I'need to know how to prepare for this meeting
Disa Jardine (1 year ago)
Jasmiena Jansen, fair enough. I hope he understands. My ex said "oh, we're gonna get married," on our 1st date...and red flags went up for me. But we got to know each other (and more red flags popped up); so I was glad I took it slow. You'll be a-ok! 👍🌞
Jasmiena Jansen (1 year ago)
Disa Jardine Thanks so much for your response 😱.. shame I told him that we should take things slowly.. after He asked me to marry him😢
Disa Jardine (1 year ago)
Jasmiena Jansen, that's tough. Do you know for sure that he's properly grieved his wife? If so, then perhaps you can gently explain your feelings...like, you certainly like him, but you're someone who'd rather move slower & get to know him (as he gets to know you). If you're an individual who takes more time to fall head-over-heels, then so-be-it. But then again, there those who simply know a good thing when they see it, girl! 😉👍Good luck!
Makrkons (1 year ago)
My mistake was actually number 2, but something didn't fit in, till I found out he was in a relationship with somebody else..I ended it and moved on..😊
Mary Smith (3 months ago)
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Giesje Williams (5 months ago)
Makrkons yeah! Me too. One year relationship.. after a few month, he got engaged
António Barros (1 year ago)
Hi Farhanzito are y wrong me?
Yesmean (1 year ago)
Oh Lord, I just wanna quit dating! I just learned about his (my crush for years) engagement to his tinder thot! I‘m furious! He never wanted to commit when he was with me and now he ends up marryin‘ the ultimative mediocre tinder thot! She‘s ugly, too! I just can‘t! After just one year of dating? Ugh. Why? Not the first time I hear men do this non-sense!
Shanae Marie (1 year ago)
I am interested..
jeimmy leyva farfan (1 year ago)
Yes i have done almost all these mistakes 😅, thanks for your advice you have helped me feel better with my self with all your videos and has given me alot of good advice that really has worked😁 thank you ❤
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
I'm so happy you're seeing results from my work. I'm here to help :)
Rose Marie Diaz (1 year ago)
My husband of 45 years past away. I now find myself in today's world of dating. I am a bit shy, I am a confident middle-aged woman that just can't seem to get past two weeks or month of seeing someone. I'm told I do not look my age and that I'm a beautiful woman but there's something there that I can't put my finger on it why things do not work. It seems like all the guys want to move in with me and that's not what I'm after. I'm looking for a foundation first and then a serious relationship but seems like we can't get past the building of foundation. Do not know what I am doing other than not doing the stay over night thing which I am not ready for at an early stage of the relationship. If you could please share some light. Is it me or the the type of guy I seem to be get involved with ? This was alot easier when I was younger.
william foshee (1 year ago)
Rose Marie Diaz you don't have to feel that way my dear, try been real to your self 👍
Rose Marie Diaz (1 year ago)
Sexy Confidence Thank-you
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Lyrical InsanityOvev (1 year ago)
I watch your videos as a guy, and i understand a lot more about myself, i smile more, i approach people. Yet... i am not a particularly a bad guy, i won't call myself a good guy, but my friends tell me i am. I have only been in 2 relationships and both have ended in cheating. Any advice? Edit: Clarification, not me cheating, them. Have a nice day everyone!
Lyrical InsanityOvev (1 year ago)
Disa Jardine Thanks for the advice!
Disa Jardine (1 year ago)
Lyrical, continue to be the one with integrity & always be sure to set your boundaries earlier on in your relationships. That way, if you both just wanna hang with each other, cool. Or if you both feel inclined to make it more exclusive, make that clear too. Sometimes she'll not want a relationship at the moment or maybe you won't want one. But if things change (intense feelings develop), then you guys can always renegotiate the seriousness of your relationship. Or not... Good luck!
Lyrical InsanityOvev (1 year ago)
Sexy Confidence, you replied as i edited, sorry, to clarify, it was them cheating not me.
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
Don't cheat. Set a standard for yourself moving forward that says "Once I commit to a woman, I will stay faithful". This will avoid pain and suffering in future relationships.
Danielle Holdcroft (1 year ago)
I've just gone in to a new relationship and everything you just said has helped hugely! Thankyou so much, don't know what I'd do without you!💙
Lyrical InsanityOvev (1 year ago)
Danielle Holdcroft Oh so he's a lot like myself, anywho, have you talked to him about it?
Danielle Holdcroft (1 year ago)
Lyrical InsanityOvev. Thankyou for your kind words. It's not that, we can be ourselves round eacother, he just has trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. But it's really bad to the point where he doesn't want me seeing my personal trainer....
Lyrical InsanityOvev (1 year ago)
Danielle Holdcroft just remember not to change yourself because of it, above all, a lot of men like women because, they can be and we, similarly can be ourselves around each other.
Bliss point (1 year ago)
My mistake is I make out with the guy on the first date, espcially if he is hot! But I do tell them, that I don't want sex with them in the beginning, but just to make out, because I am very physically attracted to you! Maybe I should hold off the physical part. 🤔 Thank you Adam!
king nick (11 months ago)
Blissful One personally I don’t ask women out on a second date if I don’t get a kiss. Simply because I don’t want to date women that don’t have the same level of interest in me that I do with her. The kiss is a date to check how interested she is. However if she has sex to soon I can easily lose interest because I think “hmm dose she do this with every guy”
lefter tiberiu vlad (1 year ago)
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Mimi Orbe (1 year ago)
Just wonderful, been searching for "advice to women from men" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Honulian Fascination Inveiglement - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my neighbour got great success with it.
pavel mihai (1 year ago)
Just wonderful, I've been looking for "dating tips from women" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Honulian Fascination Inveiglement - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my mate got great success with it.
Steve T (1 year ago)
+Blissful One This was great, thanks, I've been looking for "new relationship tips for women" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Honulian Fascination Inveiglement - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my mate got amazing success with it.
daniella m (1 year ago)
Exactly what I needed to hear right now, thank you! Sending love from Australia 💌
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
xoxoxox Nice picture btw :) lol
Christine Wolf (1 year ago)
Thank you for your advice! Always love your videos!
william foshee (1 year ago)
Christine Wolf yeah ,its nice my dear most times women lack these thoughts
Sexy Confidence (1 year ago)
You are so very welcome :)

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